Trying to find balance after having a baby is not easy. Trying to be a good mom, a good wife, pay attention to the dog, text my friends or family back within the hour (which sometimes can be 2-3 days… sorry!), finding a moment for myself, and even finding time to write a blog post has become a challenge!
Mackenzie needs me the most and of course she is my number one priority! Some days are definitely easier than others. We do have more good days than bad but even the good days are completely exhausting.
I think this is true for most women that just had a baby, but giving your husband the attention he needs is nonexistent in those first few months. I love my husband more than ever, especially after seeing him with our daughter but by the end of the night, when the baby is asleep and we finally have some time for ourselves, all I want to do is go to sleep. I’m hoping over the next few weeks this will change.
Now when I say I try to have a moment for myself, I don’t mean going to the bathroom with the door closed. Or taking a nice hot shower. When you become a mom, you lose yourself. You aren’t ‘Kristina who loves makeup’, you’re ‘Mackenzie’s mom’. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE that title but I still want to feel like ME also. We go through a lot when we’re pregnant and after giving birth. Our body isn’t the same. It’s caring for another human being. It’s amazing but you can’t forget who you were. If doing what you love makes you happy and you no longer do it, are you still happy? And doesn’t happy wife=happy life? Lol or happy mom? Everyone wants mama to be happy!
As Mackenzie gets older, and more independent, I’m hoping to find a little more time to do things I enjoy. Like my makeup, taking photos, writing. I want her to learn that she can be everything she wants and still be a good wife and mom some day.
You don’t need to give up everything just because you had a baby. It’s ok to still be you.
What hobbies did you enjoy before having a baby that you don’t do now and wish you did? Leave a comment below!
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